| Location | Doncaster |
| Age | 61 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 12/03/1944 |
| Date of Death | 14/10/2005 |
| Visitors | 707 since 05/06/2008 |
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My Dad,
Where to begin - not at the end but at the beginning. My first memories of my dad involved watching him 'bleed' when he shaved - I was quite an inquisitive child!! He was away at sea a lot and I always loved getting ready to meet the submarine, the journey and then the hugs - I really miss the hugs. Don't get me wrong these hugs weren't like normal hugs - my Dad hugged you gave you a matey pat on the back and it was done - it was special and unique!
I loved watching the concoctions he made for tea - a particular ''tea' involved chinese stir fry, baked beans and frozen casserole veg - needless to say neither of us ate it.
My favourite has to be the ration packs. He was notorious for trying odd foods so I was sceptical when coming home for dinner from school he had a bowl of brown 'goo'. We had a stand off when he said it was boston baked beans and I didn't believe him - we went back and forth for a while both laughing. I eventually tried it but he put it in my mouth whilst stating it was 'barbecued rattle snake' ' s'alright innit'. I pebble dashed his glasses and he needed to change his work shirt - my Dad.
My Dad fought a tough battle against lung cancer - he was always up beat in front of me although we did have our private moments of sadness together - he was ever the comedian - once telling the doctor when asked why she hadn't seen him in a while - 'that he'd been poorly'. However, it was the look on a friends face when he told her he had a 'touch of cancer'.
There are a million funny stories I could put on here but none would do him justice.
He loved his family above everything, particularly his grandchildren Caitlin and Drew.
He lost his battle on the 14th October 2005 at the age of 61.
I think about him every day and miss him terribly - the pain may dull but the sense of loss never does. Loves ya
I know I am still with you
in your prayers, your thoughts, your heart
And though you cannot see me,
I will always be a part
of life's sweet celebrations
in those times when you reflect
on how, though things are different,
through our love, we still connect.
We'll see each other someday
when our spirits all are free,
until then, I am with you
because you remember me.
UNKNOWN
THE PAIN BEHIND THE SMILE . A TRUE HEROE !
DEAR ALAN I READ YOUR DAUGHTER ANDREAS LOVELY TRIBUTE TO YOU . WITH GREAT SADNESS . YOU MUST HAVE SUFFERED TERRIBLY MORE THAN ANYONE COULD KNOW . BUT STILL KEPT THE SMILE FOR THE FAMILY EVEN THOUGH YOU WERE GOING THROUGH A DAILY HELL . YOU SOUNDED A GREAT CHARACHTER & SOMEONE WHO LOVED HIS FAMILY . I KNOW ALAN YOU WILL SEND YOUR KIND FAMILY YOUR LOVE FROM HEAVEN . AND ON THE 14TH OCTOBER 2008 WHEN THEY LOOK UP TO THE HEAVENS THEY WILL SEE YOU SMILE DOWN TO THEM KNOWING THAT THEY WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER MORE ..GOD LOVE YOU ALAN A REAL TROOPER WITH A HEART OF GOLD ,PLEASE TELL MY DARLING WEE MUM SARAH ABBOT HOUSTON BOYD MURPHY I LOVE HER & TELL HER TO WAIT FOR ME .. LOVE FROM JIM XXXXX
My Dad
What can I say that Tamsin hasn't already said, our Dad was quite simply, our Hero. There isn't a day that goes by when we don't think of him or miss him. My Dad had the most fabulous sense of humour which was good because his dress sense wasn't quite so good. He once tried to take me into town wearing a maroon and grey striped top and brown check trousers!! 'What's up, they're clean', that was Dad's response. He would tell me a joke that would absolutely crack both of us up, then tell me not to tell Mum because it was rude or a bit risque. Whenever we had family gatherings or outings, Mum would read us both the riot act and then we would turn to each other with our most angelic faces and say, 'What - us? Surely not. One of his favourite phrases was, 'Do you fancy a cuppa' and when you said 'yes', he'd say 'go and stick the kettle on then, I'll make it', with the biggest grin on his face because he knew we'd make it and he wouldn't have to. I remember having an operation on my foot and he would come home from work at lunchtime to make sure I was OK. I think one of the proudest moments for me was the look on his face when he met his Grandaughter Caitlin for the very first time, I wish I could have bottled the moment it was so special. He had such a special bond with anyone he met. He and Mum went on a few coach trips to Bruges and before he had even left Doncaster he knew just about everyone on the coach, but by the time they got to Dover, he was on their Christmas card list. He was a truly unique man. Firm but fair and a wonderful shoulder to cry on. Who do you turn to when the shoulder you need has gone? I've written so many poems for you and about you Dad, one was read out at your funeral and to close this, I would like to share this one with you, it's called 'Wishing for the Impossible'.
I wish I could wake in the morning,
And see your face again,
To spend the day just chatting,
Without this searing pain.
There are things I want to tell you,
Troubles I want to share,
But when I wake in the morning,
I know you won't be there.
I want to tell you I love you,
I'm proud you were my Dad,
I have some friends who are envious,
Of the relationship we had.
I didn't have the courage,
To say when you were here,
My heart was full of love,
My head was full of fear.
I didn't want to face up,
To the day when you'd be gone,
The pain of missing you is endless,
It just goes on and on.
But Dad, I know you're with me,
In my head and in my heart,
I know this fact for certain,
So we'll never be far apart
God Bless You Dad, love always, R'anj
WHAT A GREAT CHARACTER
ON THE 14TH NOVEMBER 2007 I LOST MY DEAR MUM { SARAH ABOTT HOUSTON BOYD MURPHY } WHO IS ON THIS FANTASTIC SITE . IT DOES NOT GET ANY EASIER TRYING TO COPE WITH THE LOSS OF SOMEONE WE LOVE & CHERISH . NO AMOUNT OF TIME CAN REDUCE THE PAIN WE FEEL .. YOUR DAD ALAN SOUNDED A REAL CHARACHTER WITH A GREAT SPIRIT AND EVEN THOUGH HE KNEW HE WAS UNWELL STILL KEPT A POSSITIVE NATURE . GOD LOVE YOU ALAN.. YOUR FAMILY WILL FOREVER MISS YOU . JUST AS I MISS MY DARLING WEE MUM.. THIS GIANT WAITING ROOM THAT WE CALL LIFE. WILL MEAN ONE DAY WE WILL ALL BE CALLED IN .AND THEN WE WILL BE REUNITED WITH PARENTS WE LOVE IN HEAVEN .. SAY HELLO TO MY MUM ALAN .. GOD BLESS YOU ..JIM XXXX
What a lovely man, I hear so much from Andrea how great he was, and he looks a happy loving character. My thoughts are with you all and your lucky to have such special memories of a special man.
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